Poor self-esteem is something we hear about a lot in today’s society. We are told all we need to do to fix it is to think positively. What exactly does that mean? How does thinking positively improve self-esteem? In this article, I will break down what I have found helpful to boost self-esteem so that you can use it too! Self-Worth Remember that you are worthy no matter what you do. Your actions do not define your worth. Forgetting something or making a mistake does not define who you are. Don’t focus on mistakes and overthink what you could have done differently. Self-worth is not tied to something you did or didn’t do, or an error you may have made. You are worthy just as you are! Having a healthy outlook of your self-worth can be hard for those who experienced childhood trauma or childhood attachment trauma, because you may have learned that your worth is attached to what you do. Your brain can relearn that you are worthy just as you are! Values Values are a key piece of our identity. They are what's important to us and how we choose to live our lives. Understanding what your values are, and if you are living a life that is respectful of them can help boost self-esteem. For example, if you highly value honesty but are working in a profession that relies on lying, this can leave a huge feeling of disconnect because you are not living true to yourself. When you live true to your values you feel good! Take a look at this values quiz to start exploring your values. Self-Compassion Being self-compassionate is treating yourself as an equal who, just like other humans, isn’t perfect. It is showing yourself compassion in moments when you make mistakes, something doesn’t turn out the way you thought it would, or you didn’t say or do the “right” thing. For example, if you are overthinking what you emailed your boss and worrying that you used a word that may be too abrasive. Remind yourself that communication doesn’t need to be perfect and in fact, other people have made mistakes. You can remind yourself that you do not need to be perfect and that your worth doesn’t rely on whether your boss likes you. The next time you get frustrated with yourself for making a mistake ask yourself what would you tell a friend in this situation? Prioritizing Yourself It's easy to write off our own needs as not important. You are important! Your needs are just as important as others! What would you tell a friend if they were treating themselves as you have been treating yourself? If you were to prioritize yourself as you would prioritize someone you care about, imagine what that would look like. AuthorMegan Sherback, MA, RPsych
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